Inspirational Snippet: Relationships: Our Road Map on Our Soul’s Journey

I was prompted to share an article that I wrote back in 2009 because quite honestly it is pertinent to many people today.  I hope you appreciate it as much I as I when I wrote and still feel the words ringing true as I reread them again recently...

Relationships: Our Road Map on Our Soul’s Journey

Relationships are the single most important ingredient in a person’s life experience.  It is impossible to live a life on this planet and not establish relationships with people or animals.  A love relationship is the most prominent relationship in our mind whether we are single, married, gay or straight.  The love relationship stirs up emotions, lessons and whirlwinds.

I asked my angels why are so many of our lessons tied to relationships and their answer is that every lesson we learn is tied to relationships.  Our soul experience enlists other souls on this journey we call life to help us.  My favorite book is The Little Soul and the Sun; it is a children’s parable adapted from the book, The Conversations with God written by Neale Donald Walsch.  It is probably the most powerful children’s book I ever read and quite honestly I think every adult should read it as if it were a manual for their soul.   It should be considered one of many training materials for the newly awakened souls on our planet.  It provides probably the most beautiful definition as to why our relationships may be what they are for us.

Do you ever experience the same relationships over and over: Same person, same relationship, different face, and different name?  That is because the lesson has not yet been learned.  We have made pacts with many souls to help us learn on our life path.  We have recruited people to come into our life and those pacts can’t be undone until we learn what we asked to learn. 

I remember when I was younger I dated the same guy for several years. I say the same guy, but it was really a different person, different name, but the results were all the same.    I hadn’t learned the greatest lesson of all which was to love me above all else.

The greatest lesson of all for each of us is that of self love and acceptance.  It really isn’t about who loves us and if we are loved by another; it is about us being loved by us.  Each relationship we bring into our lives is meant to show us who we are and to bring out our ability to fall in love with ourselves first.   

It is also why relationships do not last forever and are not meant to last forever.  We are meant to come together with one another for the time needed to learn what wisdom each of us has to impart to one another this time around.  I know fairy tales depict a life where we are supposed to be with that one person forever; but the truth is that we are evolving human beings.  What once worked for us may no longer work as we continue to evolve and grow on our journey.  When we enter a relationship with another we make an unspoken agreement with one another about the dynamics of the relationship.  That is to say that we each come into the relationship with our own baggage and at a place in the relationship that works for us.  However, as we all know nothing stays the same and while each of us has a path that we are following we are changing.  As we change, the dynamics of our relationship change and that is when it is time to look at the original agreement.  Often times it no longer fits for both people.  We become very attached to that which we know and are comfortable with; this is often why we develop fear about moving forward and resort to staying in a relationship that is not good for us or one that we know we have outgrown.  The length of time of a relationship always varies on the individuals involved based on their own spiritual growth; sometimes we learn lessons a lot quicker than our partner and sometimes we learn our lessons together.  This is when decisions need to be made about the relationship. A question we often fail to ask and answer sincerely is: are we both willing to work as much as needed for each of us to grow in this relationship?  Sometimes we don’t ask because we don’t want to know the answer: either we are not willing or our partner is not willing to fully work on themselves in order for this relationship to continue in a healthy way.  It takes both people to make it work.   And other times, the answer is so clear that what once brought you together is no longer there.  Regardless of what the answer is we need to ask ourselves in a very general way what do we want in a relationship and then face your relationship and see if it is what you really desire.

Many times people find themselves in a relationship that they realize is or has been over, yet they have stayed because of the financial stability aspect, they have children together or what others may think of them.   The truth is that people stay only because of how they feel about themselves; the other things look acceptable and provide reasonable excuses for them not living their full potential.  That is not to say that everyone should bail on a relationship that is hard---a relationship that presents difficulty allows for growth, but a relationship that has long been outlived represents someone stuck. This is when self-honesty and self love must come into play.

Often at the end of a relationship we fail to remember that it simply is okay to move forward and let go.  Letting go is scary and I am not trying to minimize it as I have experienced my share of fear at the letting go of relationships, but I can promise you that it will be okay.  It is always going to be okay.  And most of all, we can never go back to where we were before this relationship because we are evolving beings who learn from each experience, and it puts us at the very least one step ahead of where we were before.  With time and much healing, we often find our way clear to the next relationship.  No matter what, relationships are our road map on our soul’s journey; each experience points us in our next direction.
I have to admit that sometimes I do need to be reminded every so often while I am in the midst of a relationship that it is something I am drawing to me based on what lessons I chose to learn in this life.  Sometimes it seems easier than others.  I also tend to go back to a poem I wrote four years ago; it tends to really put my thoughts into perspective at the end of a relationship.  I hope it helps you as well. Please see below:

It wasn’t until that moment you walked away that I realized how much love means…
Yes, it is easy to think I am talking about love from you, but in that moment, I realized it is all about love for me.  If I showed myself half the love I gave to you, I would have had a love with you that would have lasted a lifetime.  But in failing to love me fully I failed to let you see your power within.  

It wasn’t until that moment you walked away that I realized how much you gave to me…
You leaving sparked in me what I already knew—but failed to recognize while I was with you…I already had the peace and love I wanted—I had found it within me.  I didn’t need you to complete me—I was already complete when I found you—but I failed to see that as enough even more so I sought for you to give it to me.

It wasn’t until that moment you walked away that I realized how much I found…
Giving up myself to you, I didn’t love me the way I needed to love me.  I reconnected who I was within and took back the power I freely gave away.  I found that with or without you I am whole, complete and loved.

My wish for you is that I hope this holds meaning for many of you who have been struggling inside about the letting go of a relationship in your life...may you find peace within.

Love to you,
EstaRa

Inspirational Snippet: Feeling Your Emotions

Good Morning World,

Up again this morning at 3:00 a.m. and was reading through some emails..oy to be sleeping would be lovely, but the truth is that I have been sleeping for some time and well I am recruited to work at this hour. 

 

Here is a quote I came across..something I always say talk about, but a good reminder....

 

"Feeling things is a human right. There are people living today that suppress feelings as a part of their daily life. A healthy lifestyle begins with a healthy mind. We are humans with an enormous wide range of feelings, it’s important to know what you focus on will grow. Always prioritize your feelings, know that you are important." --Ben Arion

 

I love this quote because it speaks to something I often speak to....how we are supposed to feel our feelings.  We are given such a beautiful array of emotions; therefore that alone tells me we are supposed to allow ourselves to feel otherwise we would not be given the emotions even the ones we call bad....like Anger, like Jealousy, like Fear....on the other end of the spectrum we are also given emotions that appear to some as too good to be true...like Bliss, like Freedom, like Safety, like Worthy...I could go on and on with all kinds of emotions, but the simple truth is that it is okay to feel our feelings. It is okay to be in the moment with what we feel. 

What is not okay is if we stay stuck in those feelings and not allow ourselves to feel the others. Sometimes people only want to feel the happiness because that way they can project that (but know speaking as an intuitive being in touch with her truth and her feelings--what is really projected is what they are trying to hide--truth is always seen)..Sometimes people want to feel only that one feeling so much so that they reach for distractions, addictions to "maintain" that feeling, but in truth they are doing a disservice to themselves and others around them for many reasons, not just the obvious. Some may feel that it is okay because it helps them through their "troubled times",  what it is really doing is prolonging the inevitable and keeping the person stuck.   Some allow themselves to get numb and not allow themselves to feel anything but a minimal amount of emotion that is often disguised as a low level of depression.  It is an interesting conundrum that people experience when it comes to depression...they can feel sad for a long time as they work hard not to feel that which is inevitably present or they can feel sad for a short time while working through that situation/emotion.  I know I am simplifying it, but the truth is that it can all disappear when the emotions are expressed and not suppressed.

A final thought about the quote above, when the author states: "it is important to know what you focus on will grow". That is truth, but what I'd like to connect for you is how that refers to not allowing yourself to feel. It takes all kinds of energy and "skill" at avoiding something, does that not mean you are focusing on it? To me that means you put more focus on it than if you simply allowed the emotions to come through. If the emotions come through, they are felt, released and done with. Emotions are an expression of who you are in any given moment...we are all of it...the good, the bad and the indifferent.

My wish for you today is to feel that which comes your way.

In love,

EstaRa

You Have to Believe We are Magic

It has been awhile since I wrote about my twinflame and me because yes I am still waiting for him to fully reunite with me.  Things are different now because we are speaking in the human form---of course not quite to the  capacity that I wish we were.

I drove to the mountains last weekend because I was guided that I needed to be at the mountains. I was sad and longing for him as I drove home thinking he should be with me.  I shouldn't be traveling alone.  As I drove through one state, there was the sign for a town that has his name.  Just as I said his name outloud I smiled to myself and the radio started to play the Olivia Newton John song...it was beautiful and perfect timing.  But I have to admit from time to time it really does get old.  I am getting way past tired of waiting and really looking for some real human signs of change.

I know he has changed--I sense it and hear it in his voice, but I feel he is afraid to let me know.  My wish for me today is that I humanly receive the sign I am looking for from him.  I am ready and I feel he is too...it is just a matter of time.

I have to provide you all with a side note...when I said down to write this I was really sad and feeling blue. I do realize that I am not  only feeling my sadness, frustration and pain, but his too.  Everyone's emotions really. I am amazed at the paragraph above--it sounds so much more optimistic than I feel at the moment....but I feel like no matter how I feel at any given moment..I always feel like the time is near and the time is now....and soon I will know.

Inspirational Snippet: Piece of Puzzle

I was prompted by my guides to share today's Soul Star Healing facebook message to the children of earth and expand a bit upon it.

Today's Message: You are a beautiful piece of this puzzle you call earth. Allow yourself to simply be guided where your piece fits. It may not be with the one you are with, it may not be in the place you currently reside, it may not be doing what you are doing, but it will be all in divine and perfect order. Remember, dear ones, all is as it should be.

Finding where you fit upon this earth is not always easy nor is it when you have a puzzle spread across your dining room table and trying to find where all the pieces fit.  Did you ever see a child make a puzzle?  They take the most unlikely pieces and try to fit them into spaces.  I ask that you view that as the mistakes you have made along the way.  They may not have fit, but it was definitely worth the try.   Each piece of a puzzle has its place so too do you.  Even if you do not find it right way does not mean that you won't nor does it mean that you never will. It does; however, mean that it would benefit you to keep trying.  Now, as I type this I realize there are some of you thinking that they said above it may not be what I am currently doing and they are correct--it simply means you may have to leave that situation and do something new and different.  How exciting that thought is!  Basically, these beings of light are giving you permission to have what you say you want to have.  Are you excited enough about the possibilties to try it or are you convinced the story you have been telling yourself is the way?  That is a question, that only you can answer.

My wish for you today is that you are not only willing to find where your piece of the puzzle fits upon this Earth, but that you are willing to give up what no longer serves you to find it. .

Love to you,
EstaRa

Inspirational Snippet: Your Day of Independence

Good Morning World,

Happy Fourth of July to my fellow American friends. I wish to say that today should be a day of Independence on many levels.  We should seek freedom to be who we are.  In that freedom alone there are many freedoms: freedom to love one another, freedom to let go of the illusion of the material world, freedom to seek truth from one another and the organizations that we have held in such high regard, freedom to speak our truth and change our reality, freedom to separate from things, people and places that no longer serve us, freedom to rise above the challenges we have been given, freedom to be at peace no matter what ensues around us and just simply freedom to feel.

Those are a lot of freedoms I know, but that is just the tip of the iceberg as I am sure each of you can add more that I may have forgotten at the moment.   What have you been living in that you no longer want to hold you back?  What thing, person or place is not for your highest best good? Today free yourself from them or let today be the day to discover it and make those steps forward. What past pain or hurt have you been wanting to be free of?  Today, declare it is no longer a part of you and make it.  How you ask?  Do not feed it anymore.  Step in the truth of who you are. Every thought, word or feeling helps to shape the reality around you so it is time to honor the truth inside of you.  No longer express yourself in a way that is acceptable to others, express yourself as you are.  Accept yourself as you are.  See today as the beginning of the rest of your life...

As I type this I keep hearing the song in my head...This Magic Moment by Jay & the Americans...the key is not all the lyrics I am told. The message here is simply this Magic Moment is being offered to you today with the energy of the full moon from last night and the powerful energy that has been created on this day as the Day of Independence--the whole world fuels this day with more power because everyone recognizes it. 

Use the magic of the day to create that new reality you so wish to experience--you have all the magic inside of you and everything you want is all yours if you allow it to be. 

Today I wish for each of you to declare your own independence.

In love,
EstaRa

Inspirational Snippet: Trust Your Heart

I was prompted by my guides to share today's Soul Star Healing facebook message to the children of earth and expand a bit upon it.

“Today's message: Dear ones, the key to this journey is about trust. Trust of yourself. Trust your heart it knows the answers and what you need to do next; however, you have been taught from a young age to let the voice in your head be stronger or even to let the voice of others be stronger. We tell you to make your heart stronger today and each day to trust that voice even more. Listen to your heart.”

There are so many of us that have had trust broken and it has prevented us from trusting another.  I have heard two things in my life about trust.  Some say, "They have to prove to me they can be trusted."  while other say, "I trust them until they prove to me they can't be trusted." I am not sure where all of you fall in regards to trust, but the message above to me is clear that we must trust ourself.  If we do not put trust into ourself then how can we trust others?  It starts from our heart.

As I type this, I feel like building the relationship with yourself is the most important in terms of trusting others.  How often do we make a promise to ourself and then simply negate it when it doesn't fit the plan of others?  For example, you may say I want to be healthy and eat intend to eat healhty, but what happens when you are swayed by a friend who wants ice cream.  Do you join them or do you honor what you put out there?   It seems so easy to break trust with ourselves.  Now, I want to explain that is a very physcial example.  Here is another one that hits home for me.  I know what truth is in my heart and when I reopened my spirit at the beginning of this journey--I was very clear as to what truth was for me and I trusted it.  Unfortunately, that memo did not go out to the people around me and well they brought their energy in and  I quite often allowed them to negate what I knew to be true.   The thing is that the only person who truly knows the truth of us is us.  That truth if it comes from the heart level is always right on.   However, when we come from the logic and place in our head that is not truth especially if it does not feel good.  When I say feel good it doesn't mean we always like the answers our heart gives us, but it won't feel misplaced and reactive in a part of our body.  It will all feel in balance.

My wish for you today is to trust your heart.  Even if you take a moment and try trusting one thing you put out there and building from that point.

Love to you,
EstaRa

Channel: Love & Other Things

Channeled Message from The Intergalactic Council of Light through EstaRa, Master of Light in Guilford, CT on Sunday, June 24, 2012.

Sunday Morning Chat with my Guides…

Greetings, dear ones.
Welcome to another new human earth day on your planet.  Have you realized yet that you are the ones you have been waiting for?  Have you realized you have locked within you the true magic and hope for a better tomorrow upon your earth?  Have you realized how empowering the energy of love can be when you truly allow yourself to feel it?   We ask you these questions to wake you up to the new energy on your planet for dear ones it is here.  You feel the same, you say?   Well, dear ones you didn’t expect to look in the mirror and see a completely different person now, did you?   We smile at the thought of humans.  Look at your pictures dear ones you are different.  You write that off to age, we understand your human minds far more than you think.  You look younger, you look lighter and you look ready to enter into this new golden age.  Go ahead. Take another look in the mirror we say to you.   And then look again after another month and see the changes within you.   They will become so evident that you may not even recognize yourself ask EstaRa as she has been transitioning for a long time now.   We say to you, do not let the mirror be the only way you look at the changes taking place within you.  Look at your life, the choices you make and how far along this journey you have come.

EstaRa: Please explain the questions:  Have you realized yet that you are the ones you have been waiting for?

Dearest one, you are the ones you have been waiting for.  Do you now understand that no one, no thing will swoop down and save you? Only you can save you.   The time is now to look at what isn’t working and change it.

You say that often.

Yes dear one, we do.  That is because there are many of you who still need to look at what isn’t working and change it.  We will keep reminding you ever so gently as long as we feel it is necessary for those of you upon this planet to drop away what no longer serves you and, dearest EstaRa there are many beings upon your planet that need to hear this message. 

Have you realized you have locked within you the true magic and hope for a better tomorrow upon your earth?  Why do you say locked within you?

Dearest one, it is simply a reminder for each of you to know that within each of you, you have the magic.  We say locked because some of you humans, do not realize that it is simply a matter of unlocking the gifts that lie dormant in your energy.  The shifting of human consciousness is the unlocking of  keys within your DNA and your being.  Once you are unlocked, there is no locking it up again and putting it away.

What gets unlocked?  How do they get unlocked?

The magic within you. (they laugh)You unlock codes that are within your make up that were set into place specifically for this time upon your planet.  The codes were not always locked, but with the heaviness of the energy and the control that was upon your planet codes became locked away only by way of thought and consciousness.  What you think and believe about yourself is the truth.  So in essence dear ones if you believe you are not magical beings then you would not be magical beings.  For too long have you held that belief, but that belief is lifting from the planet as more and more beings unlock the codes within them. 

You, dearest EstaRa, have unlocked the codes within you; however, there are more unlocking to come for you.  With the unlocking of the codes you will see great transition for you and your planet. 

There are a variety of ways that codes and keys are unlocked.  We will for the sake of this channel abbreviate that which happens.  Each time you move or travel to a geographic location upon the planet, you are activating not only the area with your energy, but you are reclaiming your energy as well.  Everywhere you travel upon your planet there are codes left behind for humans to access.  Not everyone is called to the same places.  EstaRa laughs and wonders, does Disney really have energy to access?  To your surprise, yes dear one, perhaps Disney is not a sacred site, but it is a place where beings gather together and drop their codes upon the land and when others go there it becomes a place of energy exchange.  So dear one, even Disney can become a place of energetic exchange.  Remember, each human upon the planet carries a piece of the puzzle and  each are gathering different pieces of the puzzle from different places.

For people to access the necessary codes of change and transition they must gather together in unity for gatherings and healings.  In a group environment, it becomes easiest to exchange energy, raise vibrations and unlock the magic within individuals.  As we have said many times, it is not always evident in the human, physical form, but dear ones, know that it is happening for those beings who are reaching to find who they are, reaching to find their purpose, reaching to find their magic and reaching perhaps without perfect understanding. 

(For those of you looking to understand how the keys work, please read my channel from the Philadelphia mission for a more specific response to this question.)
 Have you realized how empowering the energy of love can be when you truly allow yourself to feel it?

Dear ones, your channeler has begun to truly understand the power of love in her earth life.  She has always felt the power of love with her beloved twinflame, but she is beginning to understand the power of divine, unconditional love.  It is what makes miracles happen.  It opens doorways to new thought and consciousness.  It shines light on situations once thought hopeless.  That ist he magic you have within you.

Today’s lesson is simple here.  Make a choice every day to activate and live from divine unconditional love in everything you do.   Even in those tasks that you humanly judge as lesser.  It sounds easy, odes it not?  But we ask you to do this in times when you are not feeling the love: when you are frustrated, when those around you are not in alignment with you, when you are not having a good day.  We ask you to be conscious every step you make today.  Be conscious of every choice you make.  We emphasize with you to just be conscious.
Your channeler is using a pen that has the words, “judgment free zone” on it. (I had stopped writing and looked at my pen from Planet Fitness—don’t like the place, but like the motto.) That is what we ask you to do today.  We ask you to be prepared by being conscious and refrain from judgment.

This is not an easy task dear ones, for you will be surrounded by much: confusion, chaos and fear.  It is easier when you stay in your own energy, but dear ones there is no staying in your own energy now—you are all one and interconnected as such.  However, it is easier if you are alone in your own space to be in that place, but when you step out of it that is when the work begins.  That is the real lesson of love—that is the real task.

We shall end now.  We love you, we honor you, we respect you and we are here with you.  You are all beings of light and becoming more so as you choose light in all you do.  Cherish this time dear ones, for you will understand later the growth and progress you have made.  You will see the changes you have assisted your beloved Gaia in making.  We are all one with you.

It is with love, honor and respect we bring this to you today.
The Intergalactic Council of Light through EstaRa,  Master of Light